My Monthly Anti-stress Regime

It's good to get away once a month to pamper yourself in a spa somewhere out of Singapore.
I came back rejuvenated every month after my spa full-body treatment of body scrubs, massage to rid off aches and pains of 1 months' worth of work hazards, 15 minutes in the sauna to rid of any excess water or toxins from the body and also a warm luxurious herbal bath to soothe your mind and body and improve your blood circulation and skin. All these with the sound of Traditional Gamelan or Sundanese songs in the background to relax your mind.

Followed by a hot ginger tea drink to rid of any unwanted gas in the body and for blood circulation. Just 110 mins a month is worth my money and to give myself some time off from the stress in the office and also other stresses that comes with life, be it with friends, colleagues, work or family. It's also a plus as you can get tips from your massuese on how to improve your 'body works'.

Away from Singapore is Batam. Always stayed in a prestige hotel with a great view at night, and a spa with privacy with professional massuese and not crowded at all. It's sooooo relaxing.... plus, I get to enjoy it with my beloved husband. It's like renewing my love life every month away from others in our own world. Just the two of us.

Now, come Monday. Back to work and stress but with a clearer head and refreshed body. Already planning on my next spa treatment date. This time, some of my friends want to follow since they've heard about my spa regime away from home.

If anyone knows of any luxurious spa treatment without the cost of a month's salary, OR the ones that NOT ONLY executives can afford but also low-paid employees can enjoy, please recommend me. Although I'm so used to the hotel and spa I go to every month, wouldn't hurt to share experiences here. So anyone can go to any spa they chooses or convenient and money's worth for them.

1DAY / 2DAYS DURIAN TOURS

Hi, guys/gals,

For durian lovers, there's this 1 day trip EAT-AS-MUCH-AS-YOU-CAN durian or take the 2 days package and stay at the resort nearby and enjoy the family-funfilled day at Gunung Ledang Resort (Mount Ophir, Malaysia)

1 day Durian tour - 5th August 2006.
Adult - $58 Child - $48 (below 12 years old)
- Eat-As-Much-As-You-Can Durian
- Hi-Tea at the resort
- Entertainment by popular 60s artistes
- Best-dressed 60s costume contest
- Best 60s hairdo
- Shopping in Tangkak Town (on journey back)

2D1N Durian TourAdult - $153 Child - $103 (below 12 years old)
- Eat-As-Much-As-You-Can Durian
- Hi-Tea at the resort
- Entertainment by popular 60s artistes
- Best-dressed 60s costume contest
- Best 60s hairdo
- Best 60s Karaoke Competition
- Visit Tangkak Town Night Market
- 1 Dinner
- 1 Breakfast (Day 2)
- 1 Lunch (Day 2)
- Shopping in Tangkak Town (on journey back)

Please call the number stated at the bottom of the flyer on the left.
I'm going for sure. Just to destress on a short but fulfilling & fun vacation.
Come & join me, anyone??

Tired of this life

Sometimes people just don't understand me. Even parents don't understand me. I'm sometimes a very sickly person when I'm not resting well.

Reason: I get overworked in the office and also at home doing everything for everybody. At work, I have to do stuff for the bosses, I get chased for deadlines, I get backstabbed by colleagues, pushed around by managers and overloaded with work.

When I get home, for once I'd like to rest, laze around and have a stress-free environment. I just wished our family is NORMAL blue-collared family. None of this 'own business' thing. I'm getting sick of people pushing me around for deadlines at work and at home.

At home, I've got to do advertisements and such. I don't mind if people give it to me about 1 or 2 weeks in advance so I can plan wat I'm doing with the materials they give to produce a better work product. But instead, people just don't understand how tired I am in body and mind after more than 8 hours in the office.

I come home and, lo and behold, more work for me. 'Get it done by tomorrow', 'Urgent! Please do it by today!', 'I need this to be like this and this but must be done within 2 days!', 'We have to compete with others in putting up adverts so that we get more customers!', 'The advertisement is done and nice but we need to make changes but must be done by tomorrow!' (This being at around 12 midnight everytime.)

I AM TIRED! EXHAUSTED! My energy and mind is not what it used to be! And WHY am I still stuck under this OBLIGATION to make the family business prosperous in exchange for my health!

I'm already suffering pains, and aches internally that nobody cared about to know. I am sick but I pretended not to be sick because my health isn't important. What's important is business have to go on! Yah! 'Business has to go on, if not who would pay for the house expenses, blah blah blah blah blah....' been ringing in my ear everyday for decades.

I AM ONLY A HUMAN BEING! NOT A ROBOT WHICH RUNS ON GAS OR BATTERY!I CRY ALMOST EVERYDAY BECAUSE OF EXHAUSTION. I SUFFERED IN SILENCE BECAUSE EVERYTIME I SPEAK MY MIND, people will say I'm obligated because they paid for my wedding and such and such. THEY always make me feel guilty that I WANT TO LIVE MY OWN PEACEFUL MARRIED LIFE! There's always this and that. There's always the 'Why won't you help us?' guilt-trip or the 'We are doing this for the sake of our own family' guilt-trip or the 'We are in need of your help. For once, help your own family. We need to survive.' guilt-trip.

As if I've not been helping them since the 1st day I started my job! I don't want to sound arrogant, but FACE IT! I'M THE ONLY ONE HELPING THEM NOWADAYS! BE IT MORAL SUPPORT, WORKLOAD OR FINANCIALLY! I DON'T HAVE MY OWN GOD-DAMNED LIFE! I DON'T NEED ANYTHING ELSE BUT PEACE OF MIND!

GUESS I WILL GET IT FINALLY WHEN I'M 6-FEET UNDER!
THEN it will be gooooooooooooooooooood luck to all....
I CAN'T ESCAPE,I CAN'T SEE,I CAN'T IGNORE,THE GUILT TRIP ON ME.
FOR I'M BEING TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF,AND NOTICING THE MIDNIGHT OIL I BURN,A LITTLE APPRECIATION,IS THAT TOO HARD TO EARN?IF PEOPLE FEEL THAT I'M USELESS,THEN WHY CALL UPON ME IN THE FIRST PLACE?,WHY NOT CALL UPON THOSE WHO YOU DOTE ON?,AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO YOU CAN FACE?
WHEN FEELINGS ARE HURT,I AM TO BLAME,CAST ME ASIDE,AS IF I'M THE ONE THEY SHAMED.

WHEN SITUATIONS ARE TOUGH,I AM THE ONE THEY TURNED TO,EVEN THO PREVIOUSLY,I'M THE CAUSE, & THEY DESPISED ME TOO.

PERSEVERENCE AND PATIENCE,IS ALL THAT I HAVE TO HANG ON,BEFORE I FINALLY FLY THE COOP,TO LIVE MY LIFE ON MY OWN.

JUST WAITING FOR THE DAY,WHEN I'M FINALLY FREE OF BURDEN,THEN MAYBE I'LL BE HAPPY,AND MY HEALTH WILL RETURN.